So there is this post about Mary Sues and more so, your own internal fantasy landscape, and it intersects very well with my unposted (but mentioned to some people) counter-rant to the most recent 'RPF is Evil' kerfluffle (yeah, I don't remember the link- you'll have to find it yourself) which both led me into some personal reflections on fandom and fantasy. So here is the abridged version of the 'RPF is Evil' counter-rant (with no references to creationism or communism which were in the original, more so the pity, probably) and better thought out and expanded ideas on personal sexuality and fantasy and, well, playing with dolls.
( Be warned- SO, SO TL;DR )
( Be warned- SO, SO TL;DR )